How to Start a Conversation With a Girl 101

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Table of contents

  1. Empty
  2. Make Eye Contact
  3. Mention Mutual Interests
  4. Ask About Her Interests
  5. Ask About Her Day
  6. Talk About an Event Coming Up
  7. Ask for Her Recommendations
  8. Mention a Mutual Friend
  9. Take the Hint
  10. Conclusion

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Make Eye Contact

{"blocks":[{"key":"3s3sr","text":"When you’re walking toward the girl to make a conversation with her, try to make eye contact to let her know you’re interested. This way, she knows you’re approaching to talk to her, and she knows the conversation is intentional. It’s much better than appearing out of nowhere and constantly looking at the walls instead of her eyes.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":333,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":333,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":333,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":333,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"6n9rd","text":"Making eye contact will also help you determine whether she’s open to a conversation. If she looks the other way after noticing your eye contact, she may not be interested.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":172,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":172,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":172,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":172,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"eoteu","text":"After you approach her, make sure you keep your body in a comfortable position. Try not to get too close, especially if you’re standing near a corner or a wall.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":160,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":160,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":160,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":160,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}}],"entityMap":{}}

Mention Mutual Interests

{"blocks":[{"key":"dcb9i","text":"Talking about mutual interests instantly establishes a connection between you two. For example, if you’re at a party, you may start talking about the music or the host. You can spark up a conversation by asking her if she knows the host, then take it from there.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":262,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":262,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":262,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":262,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"2h9io","text":"Try to look casual and smile in a friendly manner. If she feels you’re uptight or nervous, she may lose interest faster than you can blink.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":139,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":139,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":139,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":139,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}}],"entityMap":{}}

Ask About Her Interests

{"blocks":[{"key":"f8vuc","text":"All people love it when you talk to them about something they like. If you want to have a conversation with a girl, it’d be a good idea to ask her about her favorite artist or TV show. If you’re at a party, you can approach and ask her if she likes the song that’s on.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":268,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":268,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":268,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":268,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"c43ko","text":"Or, if you know she loves a particular TV show, you can approach her about it and ask about her opinion about the finale. You can also have a conversation about food.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":166,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":166,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":166,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":166,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"ft245","text":"In these cases, talking about such things is better than asking her personal questions. And, make sure to listen to everything she says. You’ll need it later on to start another conversation; girls love it when they feel you’re interested in what they’re saying.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":262,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":262,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":262,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":262,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}}],"entityMap":{}}

Ask About Her Day

{"blocks":[{"key":"8vrtl","text":"If you’re already familiar with the girl you want to talk to, but she isn’t a friend, you can start a conversation by asking about her day. For example, if you see her regularly in a class or even in your local cafe, you can ask her how her day went. You can continue the conversation by asking about her plans and what she usually does on her days.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":349,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":349,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":349,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":349,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"9g5d5","text":"When you do this, the girl will know that you genuinely want to know her. Plus, you’ll know if she’s interested or happy that you’re talking to her. Girls make themselves obvious when they don’t like someone.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":208,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":208,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":208,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":208,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}}],"entityMap":{}}

Talk About an Event Coming Up

{"blocks":[{"key":"8npo1","text":"The easiest way to start a conversation with a girl is by talking about an event coming up. Of course, this will only work if there’s an actual event coming up.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":160,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":160,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":160,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":160,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"6d9lo","text":"You can ask her if she’s going to the party next weekend, or ask about her plans for the Christmas break.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":105,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":105,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":105,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":105,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"a64ng","text":"This is an easy way to start a conversation because the girl will be able to give a response and keep talking. Plus, it’ll lay the road out for you to talk to her once again in the event. If you’re both going to the party, you can wait for it to talk some more.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":261,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":261,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":261,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":261,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"edopc","text":"If there’s no party or special holiday coming close, you can talk about a test or a class you’re waiting for.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":109,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":109,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":109,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":109,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}}],"entityMap":{}}

Ask for Her Recommendations

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Mention a Mutual Friend

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Take the Hint

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Conclusion

{"blocks":[{"key":"5dde4","text":"Most guys are nervous about starting a conversation with a girl they’re not familiar with. It’s totally understandable, especially if you tried to do it with another girl and got disappointed. However, don’t let it discourage you.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":230,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":230,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":230,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":230,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}},{"key":"88p1q","text":"When you start a conversation about food, TV shows, or mutual friends, it’ll go naturally. Even if the girl is uninterested, you’ll carry on with the conversation and go your own way. So, there’s nothing to lose here.","type":"unstyled","depth":0,"inlineStyleRanges":[{"offset":0,"length":217,"style":"color-rgb(0,0,0)"},{"offset":0,"length":217,"style":"bgcolor-transparent"},{"offset":0,"length":217,"style":"fontsize-11pt"},{"offset":0,"length":217,"style":"fontfamily-Arial"}],"entityRanges":[],"data":{}}],"entityMap":{}}